Low Self-Esteem and How it Affects Your Wellbeing

What is Self Esteem?

Self-esteem is how we value or fundamentally think about ourselves. When we think highly of ourselves then we have high self-esteem and when we think bad of ourselves we have low self-esteem. Now, this esteem stuff can vary depending on where we are in our lives. Often if we have had a challenging time then it can directly impact on our self- esteem and self-worth.

How self-esteem directly impacts your ability to manage stress and anxiety

If you already have the belief that you are not good enough, that you don’t deserve to be happy/healthy/wealthy, if you already have the belief that you are not loved or you are not worthy then these are the limiting beliefs that will create your day-to-day internal dialogue. You know - that little voice in your head that often shares way too much? J

You have 60-80 thousand thoughts every single day and on a daily basis those thoughts are...

Let’s talk about bodies and how your relationship with your physical body plays a big part in your mental health.

Before I specialised in anxiety, my previous niche was weight loss, but not calorie counting and watching what you eat, cutting out vital food groups or any of that nonsense. I used to teach - and still do - about loving yourself back into shape.

I believe in being healthy and strong, living life and getting out of your own way so that you are really connected to your purpose and passion and in that moment, in that time and space. Your body will become happy and your weight will become healthy and you will feel like you can enjoy your life without obsessing over what you are consuming.

I have had lots on of clients whose mental health directly relates to body image.

I know too well the angst of feeling stressed and anxious because your body doesn’t look like it used to, or it could do or how the models look on social media. This...

Never in my life have I heard the term “health anxiety” like I am doing right now.  Anxiety is a real-life issue that is totally exhausting, for those that suffer from it. If you add on feeling anxious about your health on top of that, it’s just a recipe for a pretty stressful life. Ouch!

What is health anxiety?

This is when you feel anxious that something is wrong, or you are going to get something wrong with your physical health!

This means that every single pain that you have, every single flutter of the heart, every unusual body movement, and that’s it, you can only focus on that and then you’ll go down the rabbit hole of wondering what the hell is going on.

The next step is self-diagnosis….you know good old doctor Google! I know you’ve done it, I think we all have at some point in our lives. In the next moment you’ve diagnosed yourself with having a heart condition, MS or Lupus, even Brain Cancer or something...

Why trusting yourself is more important now than ever before - not only for your personal resilience but for your mental, physical and emotional health !

Let me tell you how much of a miracle you are;

You have 50 trillion cells in your body at any one time, now, I don’t know what 50 trillion of anything looks like, but, to be honest but its a pretty big bunch of awesomeness!

Right now, in this 1 second, 30 million cells have just died and then the same amount have just taken their place!

Each and every single cell has an electric voltage right in it… add them up and we are just filled with electrical energy that is literally miraculous and as powerful as lightening striking...

 Each and every cell is created and is imprinted with out thoughts, our feelings, our belief systems, experiences, what we eat, how we exercise and our sleep patterns

Our wellbeing is hinged on our inner technology and not anything external to us, yet, right now we are being conditioned to...

She nearly broke me! Warning vulnerable share…

If you’d have been with me in May 2015, you’d have found me sitting in front of a group of wonderful women…I was in one of my favourite places on the planet, Ibiza…The smell of the morning air was delightfully fresh, the sounds of nature all around, so healing for the soul. Yet…this morning I wasn’t  feeling like I was being healed, I wasn’t feeling peaceful, inspired and happy, I felt totally the opposite!  I normally adore running retreats, I love the sense of accomplishment and the transformation that my clients go through, whilst they immerse themselves in Yoga, Meditation, clean eating, hypnosis, coaching and other life changing activities…This particular morning was very different though…I was sat, with my clients in front of me, hiding my tear stained face behind my, typically, over sized sunglasses! I was suppressing the sobs, praying that nobody...

Meaning Making Machines

We are meaning making machines! What is a meaning making machine, I hear you ask?

Your wonderful brain is always looking for information, finding the answers to your questions.

When you were in your formative years, you soaked up everything that you’re told, well most things anyway. Especially, if we are being influenced by the people that we love the most. You  were like little sponges. Soaking up all new knowledge and it be imprinted into your mind.

Great stuff when you are learning how to tie  your shoe laces or make your own bed, yet not so grand when you are listening to your auntie telling her friend that your sister is the clever one or you your brother tell you that you’re hopeless! Bloody charming, I know!

What your curious, meaning making brain will do is create a meaning for you, depending on what you were listening to. So, an example maybe:

I am stupid

I am not good enough

I am unlovable

I don’t...

Can resilience be learned and mastered, or is it just the luck of the draw whether you are deemed a resilient person or not? 

Great question, don’t you think?

One of the things that we really need in these difficult, uncertain and unchartered times is resilience. Resilience is simply the ability to recover from a traumatic or disturbing experience as quickly as possible. So, what makes some of us more resilient than others? How is it that some people appear to bear the brunt of endless trauma, but are still standing – often still left with a smile on their face - while others crumble?

 It all starts with resilience mindset. 

 I have created a system - THE CONSCIOUS RESILIENCE CREATOR - which I am teaching my Anxiety Release Method™ practitioners. The system is designed for us in the wellness industry to support our clients when they need it most, so that anxiety doesn’t become part of their everyday lives. If you or...

The way that I treat anxiety is totally holistic. I look at many contributing factors in my clients and teach my ARM (Anxiety Release Method) practitioners to do the same.  Anxiety can be caused and impacted by so many different factors that I think it is ignorant  for us as therapists, to presume that anxiety just comes from childhood trauma or low self esteem.  Anxiety can be bought on by a variety of situations and and there is a variety of techniques that I use to help my clients and the clients of the practitioners that I train.

Many people totally overlook the impact that lifestyle has on our mental and emotional wellbeing.

Lifestyle is absolutely imperative, when it comes to long lasting positive results with anxiety and depression.

I often ask my clients to create a food and movement diary, when I first start to see them.  This works as a super helpful tool to help me to understand what they are doing on a day to day basis, it also gives the...

How Dare you?

How dare you really? Seriously honey, I know when you’re struggling the voice in your head is playing havoc with what you’re feeling and how you’re living your life! 

Honestly, would you talk to your best friend, the way that you talk to yourself?

No I don’t think so!

This is a question that I always ask my clients and I always get the same answer.  Of course we wouldn’t speak to anyone the way that we speak to ourselves. So, what makes us think that it is ok to speak to ourselves so badly? Its bloody ridiculous - let me tell you!

Most of the time I bet you won’t even realise that you are speaking to yourself in such a derogatory manner! 

If we have 60-80 thousand thoughts every day then how many of our thoughts do you think are  thoughts where you are being unkind to yourself?

How many thoughts are you having that you are saying horrible things to yourself? Judging yourself unnecessarily?

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Detox has been a topic of conversation for some time now. Many people argue that our organs are already great at detoxing the whole of the body and that is so correct.

WOW what an amazing job of taking care off our bodies our liver and kidneys do for us in terms of detoxifying! However, I firmly believe that to detoxify ourselves on a holistic level benefits us not only on a physical level but on a mental, emotional and spiritual level too.  

How do I know this?  

Because for the last 20 years I have been more than intrigued about how what we consume impacts our energy levels and ability to be the best version of ourselves possible -  and not just through what we eat and drink, but what we watch, listen to and absorb through our skin and our senses.

Anybody who knows me and my message will understand that it is my mission in life to help you to become the best version of yourself possible. You AND the rest of the world! :)

 WE are living in a toxic world! Period!...